See what I said - Caribbean Social Networking...

I posted this last week I think: 
http://www.fullfigurednews.com/2011/12/do-i-know-too-well-what-im-looking-for.html

Now look: 

Do I know too well what I'm looking for?!

Theres a girl who started a facebook group to promote Caribbean networking- which is like caribbean heritage people dating. Right anyway, we waited ages for an event to come up and one did come up.

So its comedy and canapes and then a club style thing.

Anyway its £15 and in Fulham.

So now I feel like its too expensive and also far away. (I'm a south Londoner)

On top of that there's nothing to make it equal numbers of men and women and I just get the feeling (as this happens with normal singles events) that its going to be lady heavy.

So let me explain why its even worse - 50% of west indian men date outside their race anyway - and then some of whats left is gay, incarcerated or unemployed - it doesnt leave alot of men left esp if we then cut out all the ones who arent the above... then there will need to be something MAJOR that makes it equal.

I decided I'm not going to the event - but its funny - I've read lots of books which explain to me why I'm single - and I do get scared if I'm honest because the people that think I'm amazing only know so because they know me... I dont know where to go to meet people etc.

Friends tell me that they meet partners at work / uni, through friends or networking  - I work at a mainly female / gay establishment and sector... the odds are out!

What do you think?

UPDATE: YA SEE THIS?!

Ask men out!

Look in to my eyes sugar .... ;-)

I've been readin a lot of books, attending a couple seminars - I've dabbled in theorism too (yea I'm born activist baby).

As I'm single a few have been about "dating" - now I've come to the conclusion... (And I love to present my ideas "scientifically" so watch for the quotes and references) that we ... Ladies... Should approach the men we want...
Why?! I hear you cry... Well I'm about to give you 3 tips for this little action point.

1. Be impeccable with your word - I'll delve further into what this means in another post, but you know how gooood it feels to be complimented... Do that for men and watch the reaction! They are incredibly grateful. And its very worth it...(Not many women or parents do this - and if it does inflate their heads you know to run for the hills early). Make the compliment something of substance and non sexual  "That is a really nice jumper :D" (taste compliment), "you've got such deep eyes" (eyeballs aren't sexy)
2. Men appreciate more than just a subtle sign - I didn't say go out select (your man) and eat (him for)  breakfast... I said... Feel free to talk to them first... If you're any where near as confident and independent as you seem - they'll be lost for the correct way to approach you. Many very good men are just too scared to approach such hot tamale.
3. Ask him for a favour - now I'm playing devils advocate by playing both the feminist and chivalry field here (chivalry should be dead - my sex is not for sale) but according to a man, men like "saving" us... Now ... Think simple... Think "can you do me a massive favour... just hold this for me for a second" ok so studies have proven that we like people we do favours for ... So then after you take back whatever you've an excuse to keep him talking... "So how's your night anyway?" "Who are you here with hope I haven't kept you too long" or even braver "ok, now, would you like a drink for your valiant contribution to my life?"...

Let me know how it goes ladies ;-) xxxx