Monday, August 22, 2011

Online Dating: Plus Size Girl in a Virtual World

Online dating is already very difficult. You have to deal with the pressure of creating your profile which can take quite some time, and then you scroll nervously through profiles wondering if there’s  nothing but creeps on the website, and then you wonder if anyone is going to be interested in you. It’s stressful,  and then when you tack on the fact that you’re a BBW, it can multiply your anxiety.

Here are some tips to have a positive experience:

 1.You’re curvy so be confident! Self confidence is attractive. No one of substance wants someone with low self esteem. Make sure that you have a healthy self image before you start the dating process. Loving yourself is one of the greatest attributes a person can have. 

2.  Be yourself; don’t try to say what you think people want to hear. Share your true likes and dislikes, and share your quirks because it is what makes you unique. –Don’t mold yourself into what you think others want to see. Don’t give the standard answers on your profile (example: I love to read, I love to cook, I rarely drink, blah blah blah)

 3.   If someone approaches you and you’re interested. Show interest as well but leave something to the imagination. Allow the man to try to capture your attention. – No need to be cold or mean. Allow people in and let them get to know you. Don’t let the conversation go down a sexual route. Make sure that you’re allowing the person to get to know you outside of the bedroom. If that’s the only thing that they’re interested in, move on quickly 

4. Have fun! Dating is supposed to be fun, so don’t be too serious. Trust me, love will find you, you don’t have to go on a hunt for it. – Some women treat dating as if it’s a chore or job, and then they wonder why men are running away! No man wants to feel as if he’s being interviewed during a date. There is a way to ask your questions in a non threatening way. Make sure you’re laughing, having fun, and enjoying yourself. Dating is a time when you’re learning your likes and dislikes. If someone doesn’t work out, that’s okay!

I hope these tips helped
 Until next time,

Je Tuan Lavyonne 


  1. Hi. I am a very shy person. I want to try online dating but I am a bit hesitant that guys would not love me because I really don't have the guts to initiate a conversation. I think I need your help. Can you give me some more tips?. Thank You.

  2. Hey Patrice!
    Remember rule #5! Have fun! don't look for love..look for fun and trust me love will find you.

    Remember that you're fabulous and that guys WANT to be approached too. They're on the dating site because they're looking to connect with someone as well. I can't say that it will be easy to begin with but you have to push through your own fear, and once you see that there is really nothing to be worried about it will get easier.

    Tell them a little about yourself, ask them about their life. Keep the topics very light, show off your lovely personality. I understand that you're shy but I'm sure you have a lot to share.


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